stress and relationships

SO is currently under a lot of stress.

It’s primarily related to our final unit’s renovation.  It’s been going on since late March this year.  This is a one-bedroom unit.  Unfortunately, because we took a friend up on his offer to redo the bathroom and kitchen, the reno is still going.  And going.  And going.

As a result, SO has been working nights and every weekend since March on renovations.  He’s exhausted, stressed by the lack of rental income, stressed by the uncertainty of when this renovation will be finally finished, stressed because our ‘friend’ refuses to answer his phone or return our calls….

He’s sinking back into the apathetic dispair which turned into depression last year.  He says he’s not depressed, but he’s manifesting pretty significant signs of a relapse.  He’s avoiding everything, he’s sleeping badly, he’s grumpy.  He loses his temper easily.  He feels like there’s nothing to look forward to.  He can’t motivate himself to do anything, and feels guilty about it.

I’m worried about him.  And I hate our ‘friend’ for causing this anguish, and wearing out my darling, mentally, physically, and emotionally.  I can’t believe somebody being unreliable could cause so many problems and destroy someone’s mental health the way it has.