sad

I got in to work today, and as per usual, the first thing I checked was my email.  My friend M had sent one, without a subject title, so I clicked on it.  What I found was an email telling us that she had had a miscarriage.

M is the friend who, with her partner J, had planned to see if they could fall pregnant, then when they did, they’d decided they would ‘run away’ and get married.  I’ve never seen her so relaxed and happy as she has been since they did fall pregnant.  So yes, the plan was 1. fall pregnant, 2. get married, specifically in that order.  So now, they’re supposed to be getting married, this weekend, after finding out M has lost the baby.

I am just heartbroken for them both.  I worry that they will always look back on their wedding day with that sadness of it – ‘oh, we got married six days after M miscarried’.  I would hate for their memories to be like that.  And of course, the loss of the little baby too.  M was 11 weeks, but apparently the doctor said that it had stopped growing at 8.5 weeks.  Poor little baby, and poor M (and of course, poor J).

I’m so sad for them both.  I’ve left a voicemail message, and I texted M as well, and I haven’t heard back, which isn’t surprising.  I just wish there was something I could do for them to take the pain away.  Unfortunately, life just doesn’t work that way.  And it will be very hard for M, watching her sister L progressing through her pregnancy (L is about 19 weeks along). 

Sigh.  I’m saying a little prayer for the whole family.